Author grimholtz

Elliot Fears, age 6

Elliot says he hears footsteps when I’m not near him. They might be a person, they might be a cat. He doesn’t know. He’s never seen anything. He’s only heard footsteps. He’s also scared of the vents (ducts) in the house, but he didn’t specifically say the footsteps come from the vents.

He hears the footsteps at our house and also at mama’s apartment. Sometimes he wants to sleep with mama because of it. He already is sleeping with me every night from fear. We’ve slept together every night for years, so it might be different now.

“Are you scared of the footsteps?”

“Yeah, I’m scared.”

“Are they there all the time?”

“Yeah, all the time.”

“Do you hear them now?”

“Yes, it’s silent. It’s upstairs where my great-great-great grandparents are.” (he means the black-and-white photograph from the 1800s hanging on the wall)

“Do you want me to take the picture down? Do you think it’s the picture?”

“Yes, can you hang it outside?” I tell him I’ll take it down and put it away. UPDATE: I took it down. I’m not sure it’s helped anything. We’ll see.

“Do you think it’s a cat?”

“It’s not a cat. It’s a person and a cat mutated into one.”

He tells me he is scared of black-and-white pictures. He is scared of the black-and-white picture of his great-great-great grandparents. He is not afraid of the pictures of Grandpa Marty and Grandma Renee. They are in color (but he doesn’t say that).

He is very concerned when I’m out of his view for more than a minute, and searches for me. The only exception is when I’m in the sauna. At those times, he is in the next room watching TV.


Elliot tells me there is Jesus painting on an Easter egg at mama’s apartment. Elliot says it is bullying him because he’s Jewish.

“But it’s not alive. How does it bully you?” I ask.

“It bullies me in a weird way. You know how Jesus is up in heaven? He is sending down weird stuff from heaven to earth. To my house and mama’s house.“

So he asks to sleep with mama. She says yes sometimes and sometimes no.


“Remember the salt shaker mama got from the Leadville antique store? There’s like a sign for keeping ghosts and weird stuff away. But that salt shaker doesn’t care. It’s haunted and also so is that Easter egg.”


After all this talk, he hugs and clings to me. “Daddy, I’m scared. They are watching me from a far angle.” He whimpers.

“Who is watching you?” I ask.

“That thing I just told you about.”


The next day, while on a long walk, he tells me that sometimes he feels like somebody or something is watching him. Maybe it is Hashem (God). I did not start the conversation; he did.

I ask if the somebody or something ever speaks to him? He says no.


This past summer, we went to Maine on vacation. The place where we stayed has a ghost story about a woman named Mary. Elliot was fascinated with the story and the shack where she supposedly lived. He said her last name is Agnew. Mary Agnew. The story never mentions her last name. To this day, 5 months later, he still mentions Mary Agnew on occasion. He hasn’t forgotten the last name. I have no idea where he heard this last name.


Yesterday, Elliot said that Adeev is bullying him because he is White and voted for Trump. He says Adeev calls him stupid and dumb. When I asked if Adeev ever said anything about Elliot being White, Elliot said, “No, but I know that’s why he is bullying me.” I mentioned that Adeev’s mother is Wwhite. That didn’t seem to change anything. He did say that Adeev mentioned Trump. But not being White. It’s possible he is imaging the “White” part of the bullying. But if he really is being bullied for “voting for Trump” or something else, I want it to stop. Elliot is aware that Adeev speaks Spanish and says he was born in another country.

He repeated the bullying by Adeev story several times later on.

Burning the Gingerbread Zombies

In the backyard fire pit

Hanukkah 2024

Crazy game of HAPPY SALMON. Elliot was watching The Wild Robot in the basement. He came upstairs and told us we were being too loud!

Elliot Loves to Help (age 6)

Grocery shopping. Elliot is building independence. He asks me what he can fetch in the supermarket without me. I tell him eggs and that we should meet where the old blood pressure machine used to be.

Success! He did it once before when I asked him to help.

He is very proud of his independence. Now he always asks what he can get for me when we shop.

But he can’t read well yet. Eggs are ok because he gets the right kind. I tried milk, and he brought whole non-organic milk. I tried salmon, and he brought farm-raised instead of wild.

He asks and asks how he can help. I rack my brains and can only think of eggs and cheese (he knows what the cheddar looks like, and they don’t sell organic cheddar anyway).

Maybe I’ll just accept the wrong foods, like peppers and apples that aren’t organic. He genuinely loves to help and that’s more important than getting it perfect. It makes me feel good to see him so pleased.

I recall how I stopped making the bed. Parenting experts say to make chores into games. Making the bed in the morning became a game, with Elliot hiding under the blankets. It was fun at first. But it also turned a 2-minute task into a 5-minute or 7-minute task. Every day. So I stopped making the bed…

Maybe now he’s old enough to make it with me without it being hide-and-seek every single time. I’ll find out!

Helping to make the latkes from scratch. He LOVES to help! I’m very lucky.

Elliot’s First Girlfriend, Kabbalat Shabbat, etc. Age 6

Gaga Ball with Gabe and Millie. Flowers for Emily Pasch, Elliot’s first girlfriend.

Elliot Tells Me What Calms Him Down (age 6)

“I know my body and I know what calms me down,” he says.

When I’m angry,

  1. The first thing that calms me down is going to bed and reading a book
  2. If that doesn’t help, do wrestling.
  3. If that doesn’t help, go on a bike ride or a walk around the block.
  4. If that doesn’t work, basically you can play like sports.

Beautiful Note from Elliot’s 1st Grade Teacher

Subject: Happy Mail
To: Karolina Blodgett Jung <blodgettkarolina@gmail.com>, Eric Jung <eric@ericjung.net>


Hi Karolina and Eric,

I wanted to reach out to share that I see so much potential in Elliot
during our Hebrew lessons and absolutely love the bright energy he brings
to the classroom.

Elliot continues to put in his best effort and especially enjoys
participating in our games. As we learn new Hebrew letters, words, and
phrases, I’m excited to support him and watch as he discovers new ways to
connect with our lessons.

This week, he especially enjoyed acting out one of the videos from our
Niflaot program — it was wonderful to see his enthusiasm!

Thank you for your continued support.

Shabbat Shalom!


Michal Mayara

Kindergarten & 1st Grade Hebrew Teacher
Denver Jewish Day School
2450 S. Wabash Street, Denver, CO, 80231
mmayara@denverjds.org <nmohan@denverjds.org>
303-369-0663
www.denverjds.org

It felt so wonderful to read this. Of course, I shared it with Elliot, too.

What Elliot Asked Santa – Age 6

What Elliot wants for Hanukkah and Christmas:

A whip

A radiation detector

New pillow and blanket

New socks

That’s about it. No toys! He’s always been like this.

Elliot’s First Novel

Elliot’s first novel. An epic 10 hour audiobook.

Age 54

Today Elliot said, “That’s so impressive that you survived from the 1980s to now!”

Age 54

Today Elliot said, “That’s so impressive that you survived from the 1980s to now!”

One Highlight From our Arizona, Utah, New Mexico trip

I bought a used car two weeks before the road trip. It had 17,000 or 18,000 miles on it; quite new and the dealership detailed it so it looked new on the inside.

We drove 2850 miles for the 9 or 10 day trip. We had tremendous fun. Elliot got to meet Bill and Dora, my father’s best friends. He loved Rustler’s Roost – the fried rattlesnake and the slide. We went twice for dinner.

But the funniest moment?

On the way home, Elliot got car sick twice and puked all over the car one of those times. He was very apologetic and sad. I told him again and again don’t worry about it, nothing stays new.

Inside I was thinking “I only had the car two weeks” but those thoughts never got a voice. Stupid vanity wants its due but was denied.

Elliot was so sweet about it. And I felt terrible for him.

In retrospect I find the whole thing funny. A relatively new car turning into just what I had before in a matter of weeks… 😀

Elliot Tells Me What Calms Him Down

“I know my body and I know what calms me down.”

When I’m angry:

  1. The first thing that calms me down is going to bed and reading a book
  2. If that doesn’t help, do wrestling 
  3. If that doesn’t help, go on a bike ride or a walk around the block.
  4. If that doesn’t work, basically you can play like sports

Will you teach me how to get a girlfriend?

Today Elliot asked me if someday I’d teach him how to get a girlfriend. I said yes, I’d love to.

He’s in 1st grade, age 6.

Some Marty memories

From Bill and Dora and even one from Robert

Bill, Dora, Bill, Robert visited us in Cherry Hill for the bicentennial 1976. Fireworks. Daddy yelling even louder than me and Michael and everybody laughed.

Bill loved daddy’s sense of humor.

Lipsky meeting in Europe over Rosh Hashanah. Day e couldn’t go. Exxon execs got up and said meeting over,

Stu chase daddy and Bill would send each other subscriptions to trade magazines using crazy names. Sent to the office so mail room guys would see these crazy names,

Daddy and bill used to argue over who would carry Stephanie on their shoulders into rawhide. So they compromised and one would carry in the other out. Many times brought her to rawhide. She remembers.

Bill jr remembered daddy likes to explore Jerome, vulture city, and everything on that area

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