Last week. I was on the phone. Elliot started to play with the toys on and under the coffee table. He made up stories, made sound effects. Really playing. I recognized some of the sounds as similar to Max’s play sounds.

When I got off the phone, Elliot said, “Daddy, I’m playing by myself!”

This was the first time I can remember him playing by himself except for perhaps one short instance a few weeks ago.

It is a big step! Previously, I had to play with him or he would not play with toys at all. I praised him and hugged him. I told him he is growing up, becoming more independent. He smiled and was definitely proud.

I remember this time last year, he was still in diapers. We were working on getting rid of the pacifier and milk bottle (the pacifier was easier). But he could not be left alone at all. He would cry if left alone in a room, then run to find me. He would not be alone at all, ever. If I went to the bathroom, he had to be there. It was difficult at times, but I knew it would change.

Now the change is here. He can be left alone when I go into another room, although I don’t think he likes it. He still wants me there when he uses the toilet, although he sometimes tells me to leave the bathroom while in the middle of pooping.

And he is playing with toys by himself!

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